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** Parents always begging for money *?

my parents are always begging me for money i make $2000 a month after taxes at a job where i am treated like crap and paid well below for what i do. But my parents live in a house that they can barely afford to pay for with their jobs. im just so sick of writing off half my paycheck off every month and the depressed look on my dads face because we once again dont have enough money to cover the bills this month. i have my own bills to pay too and i want to save money once again this month i had planned to save some money but again i have to give half of it to my dad. im so sick of this crap i even told them that why do we live in such a big house if we cant afford to pay for it and they tell me that one should always aim for better things in life and move forward not backward and at the same time they cry to me for money every month. and i dont have any friends or husband etc` or anyone who i can talk to about my own problems im pretty positive i will kill myself one day

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set some boundaries.
People who kill their self usually don't talk about it. Talk to them.
How old are you? You all live together? If you are over 18 I think it is somewhat reasonable for your parents to ask you to help out with expenses. But that being said, if it is too much house and not enough money between you and your parents, they need to truly consider downsizing. It makes no sense for all of you to be struggling with no ability to save for the future.This is a serious matter.
if you don't want to help them out... move into your own place... i'm sure you'll realize how much money you save then...
tell em that youve found a way to solve your financial problems and they need to do the same, just tell em to grow up and stop trying to get things they cant afford because living off of someone else, especially your own childeren, is wrong.
Tell them you really need to talk about it, & limit everything. Also maybe try & find them an easy job that could cover stuff, or if they already work find them a part time one. Also try to convince them to move out by showing them smaller houses that you think would be good & such. If they don`t take any of your advice, don`t give them any money what so ever until they start too. Don`t apologize for anything if you don`t pay them ethier.
Find out how much it would cost you to move out and get a place of your own or share Apt with others, then tell parents to shove off....................Nuf Said
LOL don't kill yourself!!! ok you're parents raised you to be who you are so remember that when they annoy you about money... i would be really mad too. why not help them get a little job or something so they can be less dependant on you, and don't you have siblings that could help with that? GOOD LUCK
If you are still living with your parents, then they have every right to ask you for money. You are making money, you should pay some of the bills, you are using their electric, their water, living in their house and eating their food. So pay for some of it, thats not a hard thing to do. Otherwise, move out and get your own place and then tell them you need the money you make to pay for what you want and have in life.
Well I don't know how old you are, but if you are old enough move out...move away....if you are grown up its not your responsibility to support your irresponsible parents. Move in with a room mate in an apartment somewhere and get out of there ok! You need to have a life and they cannot keep being dependant on you. And don't kill yourself! Life can be great if you make it that way and don't let people walk all over you just because they are your parents...God said honor your mother and father, but he did not say let them treat you like crap and take all your money.
Check into low income housing and move the heck out. Once you are out of their house and on you own, you won't be able to give them a dam penny. Why are you still living at home if you are working? Just find a way to get out from under their thump.
well if you are living with them (why do WE live in such a big house if WE can't afford it) quit your bitchin. Grow up and move out or shut up and pay your rent.
Well, if you live in your parents house, and make that kind of money, than I personally think you should cough over some money, but certainly not half of your pay! As for the comment about aiming for bigger things, don't they realize that someday going into debt will mean going BACK a step?! It wouldn't be taking a step backward. A bigger house isn't exactly aiming for higher things. I could understand if your parents could afford the house, than it would be a step back, but nothing else. I would say talk with your family about how much you're comfortable with giving them. As well as how much THEY make. Did you inform your parents of how much you make? You can always tell them that finances are tight, and you can't help out as much. Do you have any other family that could help out? Another sibling? I don't think you should have the responsibility of holding your household financially.
Chill out it will be okay. You live with your parents so you are kind of obligated to help them. Get your own place and I hate to say it but they will sink or swim it is not your job to raise your parents you owe nothing for them raising you. I am a father of three and my kids gave more to me than I ever gave them while I was raising them I still am but there is nothing owed to me for raising them and your parents should feel the same way good luck and don't kill yourself over something this small there are a lot worse things in life..Get an apartment and your own space finish growing up you will be fine....Peace
first if you live there you gotta help out,please don't kill yourself you can talk to me
If they truly "aim for better things in life and move forward" then they should be making positive changes in their life. Their $$$ problems are not your own (unless you caused them). Clearly they've become your dependents and you can legally use them as a tax write-off so tell your accountant. You're their little cash cow; you're their enabler. You feed their habit so why should they stop living the lavish lifestyle at your expense? A wakeup call is in demand. First send them to a credit counselor (they're all classified as non-profit agencies so they can't ask you for money but maybe a donation or a filing fee for obtaining a credit report). Next, cut them off 'cuz that's the only way they'll learn.
first of all, killing yourself is not the solution to all of this. why don't you give your parents half the paycheck every other month so you can still save and help out your family? just dont kill yourself. eventualy u will find a great man and a good friend who you can count on.
Maybe they feel that since you are old enough and have a job, but still live with them, that maybe you can help with the expenses. Perhaps if you didn't live with them, they wouldn't need a big house and could down-size. You are an adult...get used to it. If you do not agree with them, then move out and stand on your own. Sorry hun, this is the real world. Good luck!
simply move out! they will then have to live within their means.they do not need a house they cannot afford and its not your job to take up the slack tell them to trade down to a less expensive more manageable place.and when you buy a home remember this and do not try to live beyond your means! good luck.
just tell them that you need to save your money and that you have your own bills to pay even if you are over 18 you shouldnt have to give your parents money...its just not right...if they jobs then they should pay....tell them to move into a smaller house and if they give you that speech thats crap... then tell them that it doesnt apply to this situation because it is not fair to you to have to give almost all of you OWN money to your PARENTS...good luck and i hope i helped
Well from what it sounds like you are old enough too live on your own. I think since you live there with your parents you should help pay for the bills. If you lived on your own, you would be paying everything yourself. Your parents should understand that you don't make a lot of money and should only ask for what you can afford to give them so that you too will have money for yourself. You need to set an amount on how much you can give them each month and agree on it. Remember nothing especially money is worth killing yourself for. Trust in the Lord, ask him for patience and guidance. Good luck to all of you!
Well if you are giving your dad half than take that half and look in the paper and find a roommate and take charge of your life and guess what if you stop letting them use you for money than they will grow up and make the choices they need like a smaller house ect. However has long as you are there making it easier on them they will never stop. If you are not willing to do this than in your mind to find peace which you are in charge of never forget that then think of them as roommates and split the bills then they are not begging but you guys are equal. Also I ask you a question how old are you? does this money also provide food and utilities? just a thought. I would take charge of MY LIFE and not let anyone use me even mom or dad.
I can't believe how some of the people that are responding to you question are so selfish in their reply for what you should do. Well I guess that is their opinion, and they have a right to express themselves with their limited knowledge about life, and family. Well here is my suggestion, and recommendation. I'm sure that you are not going to be too happy with some of what I write, and I'm sorry about that. There is two ways you can handle this situation. One is that you can find your own place to live, and incur the expense of self survival. With the expense of paying your own rent, buying your own food, paying the electric and water bills, telephone bill and other unexpected expenses you will spend well over $1000.00 a month, unless if you live in a low income development. Which I don't think you could qualify with your present income. Everybody always thinks the grass is always greener in somebody Else's back yard. Now you can do this or, you can pay half of your monthly income or less to live at home and change nothing. However, I agree with you about your parent living beyond their means. If they don't have the income to afford their home, then they are not setting a very good example. They definitely should look for a more affordable home to live in within their financial means. They should not include what they get from you. They have set their goals to high, and their pride and/or their ego won't let them make the change. Their putting their priorority in the wrong order. Hey even Parents can make mista tokes, but they shouldn't compound the problem by staying where they can't afford to be. You will not be living with them forever, and they should be told that. Someday you will find Mr Right get married have kids and a life of your own. If they stay there they will sink like the titanic. You will not be able to financially help them when that happens. Both families, Your Parents, and You will be able to save money, and set some realistic goals. I personally think you should provide some help to them until you get things settled one way or the other. They fed you and supported you all through your school years, don't feel crapped on because your help is needed. You will have the expense one way or the other with them or without them. There is no practical reason for you to kill yourself over this kind of a situation. I am sure you are intelligent enough to work this out. Sit down with your parents, and spend quality time resolving the problem, and get your portion of the financial committments under control, and whats fare for everyone. Good Luck, I sure hope I have given you some help in this matter. Someday your parents won't be here, love them and cherish your time with them. There are a lot of people that don't have or didn't have that opportunity.