Do you think is wrong for a wife to have her own saving account without her husband knowing??

I have been saving a little money every month and putting it in a saving account that my husband don't know about, now my girlfriend said it's wrong because it's his money that he worked for.. but he gives me money all the time and i don't spent it i save it.. hey my dad left my mom after 18 years and she had no savings so i think everyone should have something put up, what about you.. Rkrell. how do u know your wife don't have a secert account?? I bet she do. cthdunn, your a dum bitch, why would not want ever woman to protect themself, nothing is written in stone..and who says he don't have a secert account.. what do your future hold?? it's my money and i'm hiding it. mad cause your not smart like me.

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1. I agree with you. once he gives you that money, it's yours to do with as you want
2. A smart woman always socks away a little extra...you aren't stealing it, as you said, he gives it to you and instead of chosing to spend it you chose to save it.
3. i think this is ok, because I do it too! who knows what the future might hold????? It's better to be prepare for the rainy days ahead
4. If you plan on divorcing in the future then YES you need that savings! BUT if you want an open and trusting marriage then no be honest and don't hide anything from your husband!
5. I wonder why you would be thinking of an impending end to your marriage? Usually a woman that does this doesn't want to be in her marriage or with the person she is with..
6. U both should have your own savings account and there is no need to be sneeky. You should have responsibilities to who pays what and how much and then if you choose to have an acct to share savings then fine but always have your own nest egg, just in case someone has to leave the nest. No need to be azz out!
7. There is nothing wrong with it. As a matter of fact, not I only commend you for doing so, but also recommend every woman to do so. You are a very smart cookie, Your friend doesn't know what she's talking about ( betcha she isn't even married). Good luck
8. i think that it is a very smart idea. yes its kind of sneaky, but also smart and one day im sure that you will be glad you did. you never can tell what the future holds, but you gotta be prepared anyway
9. yes and no no couse every couple should have a joint savings and and seprate yes its bad couse you should not leave it as a secert
10. Yes, it is wrong. You know it is wrong or you wouldn't be keeping it hidden. What you are doing besides is basically planning for your relationship to eventually fail. By doing this you are already creating the first cracks in a solid marriage. My wife has her own account but I know about it. It is her choice if she spends the money or saves it for the future.
11. I do the exact same thing..... and its not wrong.. but dont let him find out i am sure it'll piss him off
12. Marriage is all about trust. If you know that your husband is a trustworthy, reliable person, you should not hid money. If you know for sure that he is unreliable (he's taken all of the money, not caring about paying rent, bills, etc), then it is your responsibility to secretly put money aside for survival, especially if you have children.
13. You do for you. There's absolutely nothing wrong with what you are doing because you never know about those rainy days that may kick in. I have the same thing myself and I feel good about it. The less people know, the better, including friends.
14. No not at all..Your protecting yourself. I have been married twice and divorced twice and I will never and have never shown my bank accounts or what I have to the guys. I have three kids to think about if anything happens..I can't control it if he cheats and walks out the door three days from now. Life is crazy..Protect yourself.. I'm proud of you..You keep that to yourself and make sure you take care of yourself.
15. put the shoe on the other foot, if he had a secret savings acoount it would probably infuriate you, and i think your selfish to even consider going behind your HUSBANDS back. what you say about your mom not having any money, i have to question your intentions, sounds like you are saving the money he has WORKED hard for so you can walk out on him and leave him high and dry. If I knew your husband i would tell him what your your doing behind his back
16. Yes, I think it's wrong. It sounds like you don't trust your husband or you are trying to hide something from him. He's giving you money because I guess he feels you need it for spending or buying something. In a way, I see this as being dishonest. Why not just tell him you have your own account?
17. You never know what the future holds, I think you are doing a good thing. I just got married and I have a saving account. You have to be prepared in-case something happens, Like Divorce!
18. save away girl better than spendin it on crap and also in a relationship both people work hard even if theres only one earner. if you do split up you have your nest egg but if he ever has to stop working you can also have it to rely on if you tell him about it he might want to spend it on something for you both so it makes sense to keep it to yourself for any rainy day either for you or for both of you. ;-)
19. *why keep it a secret?* it is just your account, and you aren't stealing his money. do you think he'd have a problem with it, or give you less of an "allowance" if he knew you were saving it? or maybe he just wouldn't like knowing that you kinda expect him to leave you? maybe you should talk to him about setting up a retirement or investment plan in YOUR name only, so that you can have a sense of security. talk to him about your parents' break up and how that is effecting you.
20. Notes from my mom: 1. The man you marry is the most imp. dec. you will ever make. Choose wisely 2. Never have children until your marriage is solid. Children are traumatic, and can destroy anything, even a marriage. 3. Finish your education... You may be supporting children and yourself some day... and for sure, you will indeed work sometime during your marriage, maybe for decades, get paid for it. A marriage license isn't a life-time meal ticket. 4. Have a stash of cash no one knows about, even if you think you will never need it. You will, and the more the better. Right on, hon. My mom would be proud of you
21. I am on the fence about that I guess.....I mean if he literally gives it to you then you can do what you want with it. So - in that case it's not wrong - but you are keeping it a secret - lying by omission? On the other hand - it should be joint savings - for my husband and I we do that. I would think it strange if he had his own account and I didn't know about it. It sounds like you are preparing yourself for something that MAY happen???? What message does that send to your hubby?
22. Would it be ok if you found out he had a secret bank account? Do you get mad when you find out he's had a secret from you? If it's ok for him to also have secrets, then it's ok. It's a two way street. I can understand your fear, because of what happened to your mom. You're smart to learn from what happened to her. Saving is very good but is there a reason you can't tell him about it? Do you not trust him or do you think he'd try to take it or spend it? Just think how much you could save together. But that brings us back to the fact that you're saving in case he leaves you! That's kinda a sad way to live, always thinking he may leave you and you'd better have some savings. I hope you don't always live with this fear hanging over your head. He does give it to you so I guess you can do with it what you want, but be prepared in case he finds out! He may take it really wrong and be pissed!
23. Wrong?? Not these days, baby. It is sad, I know, but you have to take care of yourself in that way. I hope that your friend keeps her mouth quiet about it too.
24. If it's a small amount at a time from time to time, I don't see one thing wrong with it. It brings to mind an old Love Boat episode where the wife saved money throughout their whole marriage and they took a trip on the Love boat where she told him what she had done all those years. He was mad at first but then he started to enjoy the time together. Who knows, you may be saving for a 50th honeymoon. We can all hope for you.
25. I see no problem with it. I think its a great idea for women to save a little money on the side. With all the cheating husbands we hear about, ya can`t be to careful. Protect Yourself!
26. Not At all........You should always save up.....there is nothin wrong
27. No it is not, I think all women should be able to have the funds to get out of a relationship in case it breaks down... You have to be in a relationship for love not out of financial necessity... A lot of woman stay in miserable relationships because they do not have the financial capacity to leave. Both the husband and wife have to be independent of each other...