Money issues?
i came home today and wasnt in the best of mood. he asked me something about our money situation and i answered. the way we were going to try it is that we each get 50 bucks a week on junk we want. that money will be put in our own personal checking. i gave him a solution to the way he would get his gas money. i could tell that he didnt like it but he said he did so i asked what dont you like. then he gave me his suggestion and i questioned how it would work. well instead of sitting down and keeping the discussion open he gets pissed off cause he thinks that i have no respect for him and that i think he has no clue about saving money. Which is correct i dont think he knows how to save that was the reason he came up with the allowance thing. he's had money issues since we got together. bills that he said he would pay off by a certain amount of time but didnt happen. well i tried to leave because he was really angry and we dont solve many problems when he's like that. he didnt like the idea of me leaving so he grabbed me by the shoulders and pushed me back into the living room and then i tried to go again and he did the same thing. it wasnt a strong push...not hard enough to make me fall but he put his hands on me which surprised me. i told him not to touch me. and more words were said and then he punched and broke our bedroom door. In my eyes i didnt do anything to make him that angry with me. i dont know what to do.
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- The physical stuff is NOT OK! Even though he didn't touch you hard, it shows his anger is escalating. I would find a counselor in your area to talk to. If you have a university near you they normally have programs that are reasonably priced. He needs anger management. Do not let him touch you in that kind of way. You are worth more than that! Best of luck!
- Your situation is similar to what mine use to be. My ex-husband didn't know how to ration money. He liked to live big which don't get me wrong we could afford but he just didn't like to pay bills on time. What I would do which may also be a good idea for you to, is to save up money if you have a job and act as if you didn't make much on your check and pay little bills on the side so that you can use other monies for the bigger bills. If you're still newly weds it will take him a whi to adjust to having to take another person's feelings and CREDIT into consideration. Good luck.
- he doesnt have to push you HARD..the fact is..he pushed you period..and not only once but twice.. this is a warnign sign sweetie.. ge tout before he does somethign worse to you ok?? it doesnt martter if you jsut got married or not he has this ability to start pushing..this is the beginning of the cycle to abuse.... ge tout go to a womans shelter..or tell him to ge tout and he needs anger management and until he does that and controls his temper that your not going to be with him.. and no you did nothing wrong... he did when he lost his temper..sweetie i know about this..i lived it for oo prob 10 years and i know it will get worse.. first hell apologize and swear itll never happen again and how sorry he was he didnt know what he was doing because he was angry etc... no matter how much he begs you and tries to manipulate you into forgiveness over this..dont give into him.not til he goes to anger management classes and get s some help for the temper.. if you ever need help remember to call the womens shelter ok?? its toll free and they can even come get you and they will help and protect you hugsss dear
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