Money issues after marriage?
i came home today and wasnt in the best of mood. he asked me something about our money situation and i answered. the way we were going to try it is that we each get 50 bucks a week on junk we want. that money will be put in our own personal checking. i gave him a solution to the way he would get his gas money. i could tell that he didnt like it but he said he did so i asked what dont you like. then he gave me his suggestion and i questioned how it would work. well instead of sitting down and keeping the discussion open he gets pissed off cause he thinks that i have no respect for him and that i think he has no clue about saving money. Which is correct i dont think he knows how to save that was the reason HE came up with the allowance thing. he's had money issues since we got together. bills that he said he would pay off by a certain amount of time but didnt happen. well i tried to leave because he was really angry and we dont solve many problems when he's like that. he didnt like the idea of me leaving so he grabbed me by the shoulders and pushed me back into the living room and then i tried to go again and he did the same thing. it wasnt a strong push...not hard enough to make me fall but he put his hands on me which surprised me. i told him not to touch me. and more words were said and then he punched and broke our bedroom door. In my eyes i didnt do anything to make him that angry with me. i dont know what to do.
Public Comments
- The problems in your marriage are alot more serious than money. Your husband has anger issues that he obviously cannot control. Even though he didn't technically "hit" you, he did put his hands on you in an angry way, he did prevent you from leaving the room, and he did destroy property. All of that are very dangerous signals. Either get the both of you into counseling ASAP, or leave him. You need to protect yourself.
- Let him waste his share the way he wants. Then make him crawl (on all fours) when he wants some of yours.
- Every couple has a problem now and then, this is what I would have done, If I seen that he was getting angry I would have changed the subject to another topic then set down at the table figured out the bills, then how much was left after the bills were done, then I would have shown him on paper what was left for us to spend. Leaving is not the answer. Sometimes we have to apologize even if we are right LOL Hope this works out
- I think you're smart enough to know the answer to your question, good luck for your future.
- You should of clawed the hell out of him and kicked the shit out of him and told him hit you again and next time you'll take a gun to him and shoot him dead and money won't matter then, will it?
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