my boyfriend is having some financial problems and he is relying on my money?

i'm 22, college student.my boyfriend is 37 and working.he gets paid 5x times more than i do.i get pocket money from my parents and i also work so i have lots of cash to save and splurge on.i always have more than enough to use.for some reason he always run out of money.he always ask me if he can borrow some.his problem is,he never know how to use money wisely.i always tell him that i'm just a college student and plus,he's a 37 year-old man and he gets paid 5x more than i do.i dont have that kind of money to cover up his expenses.he kept promising that it wont happen again,and yet its happening every month.we are living together and i always get my part of rent on time.but he always pays it late. this month he had been relying mostly on my money.he is working part-time and he never knows when he is getting paid.whatever he eats or uses,are all my money.today he just came back saying the company wont pay him enough next month and sounds like he has to rely on my money AGAIN. i keep telling him i dont have enough to cover up his expenses but he keep promising that it will never happen again.but his promises are nothing.i feel like he's taking advantages of me.i just got a new laptop 3 days ago,and he already said he wants to download this game on my computer that takes ALOT of space.right now he's using all my products,shampoo,conditioner,shower creams,face creams,cos he doesnt have money to buy one for himself. when i complain he gets angry.like i'm not allow to say a thing cos ANYTHING i say about this will upset him.and once i say it,he will make it like its all my fault and i have to be responsible for my words that hurt him.......what am i to do?

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1. First off you shouldn't be living with him and shame on your parents for allowing this situtaion. Second dump him. NO you shouldn't be covering anything for him. You are not married and you are not responsible for him so don't live like you are. Dump hiim and move on. If he is 37 and behaving that way he will NEVER change. And besides he is 37 and you are 22. He has more problems than you want to even consider! DUMP him and move on....
2. 5 times more? What are you getting paid like $2 /hour? If he is really making 5x what you are and one would assume you are making at least minimum wage that would have him making around $25/hour. If he is blowing through that money he is either 1) gambling 2) has a wife/family somewhere 3) smokes crack. Dump him.
3. yuck that one is hard... maybe you should try to talk to him about his money management.. even if you have to manage it for him, i know he may have some kind of pride issue of letting you manage his money.. but let him know that if you work together thru the harder times. it will build trust in the end.. but if you want to go on the neg side of things... find out if he really is getting laided off with hours.. or is he using is money on other things.. i think you should try part 1 FIRST .. and if he seems to get all defensive and NOT let it happen or try to compromise AT ALL.. then maybe looking to option two.. Good luck!
4. You need to dump him fast. He's a poor example of a man and always will be.
5. It depends, if He is just a boyfriend, say NO!. If He is the one for You, Help Him out, but try to get Him help in managing His money as well.
6. You have to ask yourself if you want to support him forever? If your answer is yes, then you have to put up with all his demands. He is doing this because you are letting him.
7. Red Flag alert!!! Let me get this straight 22 and 37, honey you are just beginning to grow up, he is grown up, dump him!!!!! That is all I have to say, he is a cheap looser, who does not want to share his money with you, dump him so he can pawn off of some other victim, he does not love you, he loves what ever money you have! You are in college, so everytime you hit up your parents for money, after they just sent you some, don't they get suspicious? Do they know you are dating this older creap??? Dump him before your parents realize that you are giving him their hard earned money to you so you can survive at college and when they realize that you are giving it to him, then they will stop sending you money so you can stop giving it to him. Do you really want that to happen??? I did not think so, Wise up, dump him, and keep your money!!!!! Tell him to take his sob story some where else!!! He is cheap, and he wants to keep his money to himself and he is a looser!!!!!!!!!! Get rid of him ASAP, before your parents "cut you off"!!!!!