Forgiving but not forgetting...?
My father and I are distant and he's always seem to me a person that is jealous of me for whatever reason. He's far wealthier after retiring from the oil refinery business after 30 years. He's single raising my three brothers - my dad didn't raise me instead I was raised by my grandmother. Anyway, I found out that my father was dating my half sister from my mother's side - what a perv. (JMO). The two are not related. My mother's side of the family is hurt and shocked. Either my father or half sister have morales. My mother is deceased. My father is 55 and half sister is 18. I do not talk to the two of them as far as I am concerned they are dead to me. My father acts as though nothing ever happened he's always been this way. My sister left my dad and visa versa but still I feel they are both contaminated. I don't love either one of them. I know we are suppose to forgive but I can't I may die in hell but I can't let this go - is this right?
Public Comments
- You don't go to hell for that read your bible for pete sakes. Sounds like he and your half sister need to visit my good friend.....Jerry Springer
- the bible says to forgive, because god forgives us. but it also says that god knows we are not able to live up to these expectations and that is why jesus died for us. repent for not being able to forgive and you will not got to hell.
- Remember, God says, "Revenge is mine." No one gets away with anything, that includes your father and half-sister. There is a 'pay day' some day for everyone who sins and does not repent. God understands that we are just human. He understand the pain we are in and the hurt we have gone through. We all do our best to forgive, and sometimes it is quite hard as the damage can be so great. Pray that God will lead you to find forgiveness in your heart. Let God take care of them. Be grateful your grandmother raised you and you are better than him. Ask the Lord to grant you peace. God Bless.
- i can sympathize. well i believe in forgiving because its what God says for us to do. however he also knows we are human. its very hard to forget and forgive something like that. but surely your sis and father isnt loosing any sleep over it. You are. why give them that benefit? you did nothing wrong. i dont know when this relationship began but if it was before she was 18, he is a pedophile. sorry man but thats what he is. i dont see why a father would even have the attraction to his son's 18 year old sister. It seems like something from a soap opera. You need to move on. You should feel hurt and upset but what good is it doing you by being this way? Those two are not suffering. If you must be upset, leave them be. Dont talk to them, dont even acknowledge them. I have gotten over troubles and hurt by simply ignoring the situation and people. try to do the same. When you speak about them or come face to face with them, you become more infuriated and hurt. dont put yourself through it. if they cared about you and what you felt, they wouldnt have gone through with the relationship. It seems pretty selfish to me that they would carry on with that type of relationship disregarding how you and others may feel about it. Your father and sister sleeping with each other? Something like that you just do not do. I would feel the same if my father dated my half sister. Its just gross and disrespectful.
- Don't kick yourself so hard. I don't think many people could deal well with all this drama.
- "forgive and forget" i strongly believe in these words but then sometimes what is the point of forgiving and forgetting if the person does not change and continue to do the same thing then what is the point of forgiving and forgetting i think that what u did is not wrong they dun deserve ur forgivness but u should forget about it and move on with ur life this should not have anything to do with u forget not forgive
