How much "guy time" is acceptable? Is it less acceptable in a long distance relationship?

My boyfriend of 18 mos. was recently able to retire. This has coincided with his mother's illness, so he also moved out of state to be with her. When he is not caring for her, he is enjoying his retirement as any young wealthy man should- relaxing, playing golf, and travelling with friends. I work two jobs and probably will for the next 30 years or so. I am finding myself getting increasingly jealous of the trips he plans with his friends. And I don't understand it, because rationally I know that if I were in his position, I would travel too! I would invite him, but if he couldn't go I certainly wouldn't let that stop me. But emotionally, I just have this really icky gut feeling ALL THE TIME about our separation, and his travelling without me. I've tried to bring it up but the conversation goes nowhere, he accuses me of being jealous, and he's right. I can't figure out if I'm just being childish and just need to get over it, or if this gut feeling is really trying to tell me something.

Public Comments

1. I don't know about anyone else, but my "woman's intuition" has NEVER steered me wrong. I can totally trust my inner voice to tell me the truth. Can you? I hate to make bad vibes, but I sense you guys might be going your own ways, and maybe you'll be reluctant to accept it. (Sorry...hugs)
2. i'd go with the gut feeling. and if he's that rich, why doesn't he let you quit your job and travel with him? He sounds selfish to me.
3. Hm. I don't like him. If he is so rich that he retired so young, you shouldn't be working either, at least not for a while.
4. I want to help out with this question, but there are too many variables and things not said for me to fully understand. You say you work two jobs - is either one you love? Can you not go with him on vacations because you have to work? What are your thoughts on moving towards where he is now? Have you brought up any trips you want to go on with him, and if so what has been his response? Its tough for one person in a relationship to have such a different lifestyle than the other. Questions of jealousy, vindictiveness, and privaledge are bound to come up. But when it comes down to it and his traveling - you either trust him or you don't. There's no in between - he's either a good guy who loves you and would never be a bonehead or a guy you shouldn't trust for good reasons.