should save money to get married first or get my own apartment with my fiancee?

im going crazy look.... right now i dont have money for a wedding um.. i also want to move out so for what should i save best my wedding or moving out. mind you i live with my parents and fiancee so yea .

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1. If you guys can't afford to live on your own, you're not ready to get married. You both need to be financially independent from your parents before jumping into marriage.
2. Well if you can afford the payments that come with moving out then I would suggest that first. I know that the average female wants a big wedding, but that might have to wait a few years or months. The big question is what you can afford at the moment. Once you take care of one, then you can concentrate on the other. Hope this helps, and congratulations.
3. Actually back in the day, couples would often live w/parents for like a year AFTER they got married, sometimes longer, their parents would help them raise their children, etc.. Nowadays things are different. But, the way i see it is, you can save money better living with your parents, for life in the future.. If you live on your own and then try to save up for the wedding, it would be much more difficult, but also, you're not the only one who is supposed to dish out money for a wedding,
4. Apartment, that way you're not married and living at home
5. I know that it's totally old-fashioned to think that people should get married before living together, but it really has its benefits. Waiting seems like it's not an option, right now, but you might be glad you waited eventually. You may be able to get married sooner than you think, too. If you're willing to sacrifice the big wedding, you may go to a Justive of the Peace, or just have a small, simple wedding.
6. You need to live together first. I dont care hold long youve been dating, you dont know someone until you start living with them. You need to have discussions abouot finances. What things are personal and be paid for by each individual. What things are joint expenses? The 2 of you should go to the bank and open a joint checking account for the purpose of paying joint expenses. Decide how much each person should contribute to the joint account every month. These are not easy decisions. Who is going to cook? Do you share that responsibility? When you combine 2 households some tough decisions need to be made about what things should be thrown out. Do not assume that your dishes look better than his and so he should get rid of his. they may not look like much but someone may have given it to him as a gift and so they hold sentimental value to him. You need to value and consider each others opinions. There are a lot of things that need to be worked out, and sometimes these things dont always work out. This is why you should not get married until you truly know what your getting into. Good luck.
7. Ask you parents what they think too, however there is nothing wrong with living with your parents it is only in our society something is wrong. You should save money get married then get a house. IF you do not have to rent do not do it if the both of you can live in your parent s house like The basement to save money do that or get a small apt so you can save up for a house.Get married first.
8. We just moved out on our own about 3 months ago and love it, we are planning to get married Sept 5th. It's going to be rough but even if the wedding has to be smaller we will make it and whatever we end up doing will be great because it will be what we want! It just depends on what is most important to you and your future hubby...having a big wedding or being out on your own and not having do deal with parents. Something else that came up when we moved out was some of my family didn't like us living together before marriage so if your are the kind of person who takes everyones opinions and views into consideration you might want to think about that too. Even if you do live together now you are being "supervised" by your parents still. Another thing to consider (not knowing how old you are) is if you or him are still in school (college) and how that will affect your money now and in the future. If you end up spending more time away from home running here and there with school, work, or other stuff it might be better for you to save your money up and have your wedding first, but remember there's no rush to do either, don't stress out, and don't do anything before seriously thinking about it or you might end up regretting it in the months or years to come.
9. Kellie has the totally right answer. Before the two of you get married, live on your own independently first.