going overseas, so confused!?

my husband is from overseas but moved to my country to be with me, we have a baby boy together, and i have 2 kids from a past relationship, he is very depressed here and wants to go back overseas to be with his family and friends, he wont leave without me and our son, but my other 2 kids coudlnt come with us because of thier father, i dont know what to do he cant stand it here anymore and its causeing alot of problems for us, but can i really just leave? is there any other options for me? what should i do please i need a outsiders opinion

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1. Allow your husband to return to his country....he knew before you were married the obligation to your other 2 children to ensure they have a relationship with their father. Your husband is a man and needs to own up to his responsibilities to you and the children...by staying with you. The father of your first 2 children have obviously owned up to his as he does not want them out of the country-he is fighting for his right to remain an active part of their lives. Your current husband needs to stop being selfish and except the situation he has chosen, start looking at the positive of staying, but don't rule out regular visits to his homeland (as a family) so he can be with his loved ones as well. Leaving you would just show his selfishness. Why can't he make new friends?
2. Im overseas at this time and i have a friend that had kids and got a divorce but she dosn't have full custody she gets weekends cause she got married again and there was nothing wrong with the guy they just didn't get along anyways when she moved over here she couldn't see them every other weekend cause well it would cos tto much so she was just seeing them on holidays well it got to the point where it was to hard on the kids to just come on holidays so she went back to court and they get to keep them 1 year at a time. This year is her first year with them for a long time i think that was pretty cool that she gets to be with them for a year then he will get to do the same and they can also see each other in between if they so choose. Im not sure how hard your situation is with your kids but you can look into that. But you also have to think about yourelf by making him happy are you trully going to be happy overseas with him. I will have to say this i love being over seas and im not happy that i have to return in 2 years back to the states. You could also do a 5 year stay and back and forth if you have the money for do a 10 year thing stay there and come back. HEll if you buy a house in the states and get one over seas you furnish them both and just move back and forth when you can so that you can see your kids when needed have a place to live and then move back in the 5, 10 years to his place if that makes any since.