Our parents live world apart. Where should we get our wedding??

Me and my fiance' are living in the FarEast and we are planning to tie the knot by the end of this year. However, the problem is my parents are now retired and living in Thailand and his are living in the States. Both of our moms has health problems and can not take long haul flights. Where should be the perfect place to get a nice wedding? I would love to have both of our families together. Or should we just forget about the wedding?! Please advise. Many thanks :) G

Public Comments

1. Have two weddings! Lucky girl gets to have two big days =)
2. this is a horrible situation, maybe u can have two weddings, of course then u would have to have cheaper weddings, but whats more important right.
3. have it wherever the most people are
4. Other than going along with the "Lets have 2 weddings idea" First off I want to say that the wedding is about the two of you and not about your mothers. Unfortunately the truth about relationships and weddings is that you will NEVER be able to please everybody. If the two of you wish to get married then you should just go ahead and get married. Your families will just have to understand that the two of you were running out of options and there was no way to accommodate everyone.
5. have a small wedding and reception near both sets of parents. Another, less personal solution would be to get both sets of parents on the Internet for a live hook up somehow so that they can see you guys get married and that way they can sort of 'be there' too. They could even participate in some way. Maybe have a small vocal part of the vows or what ever. Good luck.
6. Never forget about your wedding..It is about you 2..If you found a midpoint to have the wedding and the parents could come...If not...Have 2 small weddings. or 1 large one, have it videoed taped and send it to the other family, maybe you could go visit them too...
7. Have two receptions that way everyone can be involved
8. I agree, have two weddings. Make 'em both small. Just family, get married in a church and have dinner. Then if you still want a big wedding when you get back, have one with your friends and family that live in your area. Good luck!
9. can you have the ceremony in the US and the party in thailand?
10. You could have 2 weddings- one in each country. You and your fiance could elope and just have 2 receptions (although you might regret your family not being there). Alternatively choose the place where most of your other family members/friends will be and have it there (although one family might end up getting hurt). Or the ceremony in one country (and just a dinner at a restaurant with that family) and a reception in the other country. Or you could choose a place between the 2 so the mothers would not have to fly as far (although they would still have to fly- not sure if this is a problem) e.g. Hawaii.
11. You should find a halfway point for a destination wedding. Small, intimate and a comprimise to both families.
12. The best (and easiest!) place to marry is where you live now. Then go visit both sets of parents . . . since both moms have health problems and cannot travel. Maybe you can have small receptions in both Thailand and the US, so the parents can celebrate with you? If the moms have health problems and cannot travel, then you will have to forgo your dreams of having both families together . . . at least for now.