Need help for my mom married to retired Air Force jerk.?

My mom is 64 y/o and married to a retired Air Force officer. he treats her poorly and threatens her with deportation and lack of funds or alimony, etc. if she tries to divorce him. He does not pay her medical anymore, through TRICARE? I don't know what to do to help her. I don't know who to talk to. She is from Thailand and will not just divorce or remarry b/c she is old-school and she doesn't speak English every well. I am 32 y/o and live in the same town as she does and I am trying to help her as much as I can. My father and I do not speak anymore b/c he treats her like dirt and I cannot respect that in a man. Please help me. Is anyone else in this situation? Are there any help or support groups online for military wives/foreign wives? Any serious, helpful responses would be appreciated... I'm stressing about this a lot.

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1. Spousal abuse is cause for dishonorable discharge. And/or reversal of retirement benefits Do a little detective work.. find out who his superior officer is/was. Give the officer a call or email and voice your concerns. Believe me the military will be harder on him than any one else. :) If this doesn't sound like a good solution, then i would call a few divorce lawyers in town, and ask them what her options are. Good Luck, and God Bless !
2. let her move in with u
3. Maybe she can try the women support group? Is she an illegal immigrant and that's why he's threatening her? You can try contacting a lawyer who specializes in immigration visa processing and ask for advice.
4. Is your mom here legally? If she is then the threat of deportation is an empty one. It's up to your mom to decide what she wants to do here. There are options such as counseling and a trial separation period. Just keep being there for her as much as you can and do some online research to see if there are any support groups in your area that might help her.
5. Liston to the first girl. The military don't mess around when it comes to that stuff. They are hard on active and retired military. If you speak to his superior officer, I'm sure they will look into it. But the key is they are going to question your mom and she has to be honest and not just say No nothing is wrong. She needs to tell them the truth. Make sure if you do this your mother is in it with you.