How do you get your fiance to save money?
You are trying to save money and paying your side of the bills ontime and saving if there is any money left. When his check comes and it is bill time for his side he doesnt have enough if any to pay because he spends it on little things. I have already spoken to him about this. Any other ideas? He claims he is not going to live uncomfortably. (Meaning having the AC on alot-getting nice food to eat). ETC. P.S.I do not have any extra money to pay his share of the bills, and either way since its Fiance yes I know our bills,...why should I front the bill on everything?
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- You cannot get a grownup to do anything if the person doesn't really want to. It sounds like he only cares about immediate little comforts, and can't see the big picture (having AC now Vs. paying the rent later). You should stop trying to change him and deciding if you really wanna marry this guy. At least he is showing you his true colors now, not after the honeymoon is over. Good Luck!
- If he can't manage his money properly and isn't willing to, you may want to consider finding someone better. Perhaps he should get a better paying job so he'll have extra money to buy the things he wants. Otherwise, write out a budget and follow it to the letter. If he can't consider his money as "ours" then you should consider your money yours and only pay off the bills you want to. My fiance is horrible with money, so I'll be keeping his credit cards and cash and he'll have an allowance every month, simply because we both know he loves to buy stuff and can't help himself.
- If he's your fiance, it's not "our" bills yet! DO NOT pay for any of his share of the bills. You need to have your own budget, which includes your own savings account, and pay only your fair share. You two should not get married until you have figured out how to balance your money issues. Money is one of the very top reasons people have marital problems and wind up getting divorced. You're already on that road. It sounds to me like he's very happy to freeload off you. You need to find a man who wants to take care of a family, not find a sugar momma!
- Resolve this issue before getting married or you will have a lifetime of trouble. Saver meets spender is a prescript for disaster. Earning a lot of money helps, but over time the ability to increase the cost of "little things" expands and the tension between moderate denial for saving and self-gratification on the other will grate. In other words, it's not a matter of "getting your fiance to save." It's far more than that. You must have a long talk about goals, saving for college for children, retirement, etc. If his answers are totally different than yours, and the devil is in the details, it will be time to think very carefully about this prospective union. Of course, you could see a pre-marriage counselor or your clergy about this matter. It may be enlightening.
- Well if you can't convince him to change his ways I doubt anything said here will convince him. I think the more important question you need to answer is can you live with someone that is going to take you into debit, because if you marry him, he will do that. I sorry to point this out, but you should think about it. Money breaks up quite a few marriages, as it is the number one thing people argue about.
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